For many people, Valentine’s Day is a holiday that is all about showing your significant other how much you love him or her by buying flowers, greeting cards, chocolate, lingerie, etc. For me, I have always looked at it as just another day because shouldn’t you always be showing your significant other how much you love and appreciate him or her?
Oddly enough, in my last relationship, our anniversary was actually Valentine’s Day. I always thought this was so corny, especially coming from someone who never thought of Valentine’s Day as any extra special day. What was always nice about this for me, is it allowed me to celebrate Valentine’s Day without actually having to feel like I was celebrating it, because I was focused on celebrating our anniversary instead.
Fast forward a few years and I’m single for the second Valentine’s Day in a row, and once again don’t really care much for the holiday. I love seeing people in love but I also love loving myself so I take being single on Valentine’s Day to the fullest extent by allowing myself some extra self-love.
This Valentine’s Day is a little odd because it also Ash Wednesday so for any of y’all who have saucy V-Day plans, think twice because God is definitely watching you 😉
I’m going to start my V-Day night by leaving work and going to church. I’m then going to get a mani/pedi. I might treat myself to sushi afterwards because now that I’m writing up this fabulous plan that’s all I can think about. I will then be sure to take my ass home and binge watch Netflix while wearing a face mask, a hair mask, and drinking my green tea, while snuggling with my puppy.
You can tell me that going out to a fancy dinner and receiving a dozen roses is a better night than the one I have planned, but I’m convinced we are both on a pretty equal playing field of who’s V-Day is better than who’s.
There are so many things that are great about being in love, but it is so important to know how to love yourself too. I think being single on Valentine’s Day is a good test of how much we love ourselves since the entire day is centered around love. Being alone during the holidays (Thanksgiving, Christmas, NYE) can be difficult sometimes and being alone on Valentine’s Day might be even harder for some, but it shows that if you can make it through these days and still know how much love you have for yourself and how much love you have to give, you can really make it through anything.
Plus – think about how much money you’re saving by not having to buy a Valentine’s Day gift.
Although if anyone wants to buy me chocolate covered strawberries, let me know 😉
With love from my city to yours,