Recently I have seen this post going around that says something along the lines of there being no such thing as bad timing, because if two people were meant to be together, the timing would be right no matter what, or timing wouldn’t matter, or something like that. Okay, I actually just really, really butchered that but I feel like you still get what I was trying to say.
The first time I saw this, it really got me thinking. If you read my post falling for you back-up plan, you would have a glimpse into a situation that didn’t work out the way I planned, which I have continuously blamed for the timing being wrong. I think that this is something a lot of people frequently resort to when relationships do not work out. “We weren’t on the same page” “The timing was off”
Is it possible that bad timing doesn’t really exist? Are we willing to accept that maybe we really just weren’t meant to in these relationships any longer?
I, for one, can tell you I am not yet ready to admit that maybe it just wasn’t meant to be. I would happily sit here and continue to tell you that I think that timing really is everything and that if the timing is wrong, there is not much else you can do.
Since this quote – you know the one I completely butchered above – suggests that there is no such thing as bad timing, there must be something that can be considered good timing. I would have to disagree and here is why.
The timing is never going to be right.
Everything in life is about taking risks. Starting a new job, attending college, moving away, buying a house, getting into a relationship, or getting out of one, having a child, etc., etc. There is always going to be a reason why you should stay at the job you have – maybe you’re up for a new promotion. Or there is going to be a reason why not to get into a new relationship – maybe he lives 2 hours away. I mean no matter what timing will never be 100% on your side.
We have to be confident enough that the decisions we make are more in our favor than they are not. Sometimes that will put us in a position where we end up with the world in our hands, and other times not so much. But life provides us plenty of learning experiences so the next time the same situation approaches us we will hopefully make the decision that leaves us with a more desirable outcome.
As far as timing in relationships goes – I do not think there really is ever a good time. I think that bad timing definitely exists because there are relationships I’ve been in that didn’t work out where I was left thinking “if only the timing was different.” Does that mean we just weren’t meant to be? Maybe. But I’m still rooting for one guy to come back around and give me another chance so I will still be blaming timing – for now.
What do you think? Is there good or bad timing? Or was the situation just not meant to be? I’d love to hear what you think!
With love from my city to yours,
via Daily Prompt