I think I can speak for just about everyone when I say that we get very fixated on the number that appears on the scale. I once joined a weight loss program where I had to weigh myself every single morning. I never realized, prior to that, how much your weight can fluctuate each day or how much that scale can truly affect your perception of yourself for that day.
It really is unfortunate that I could eat extremely healthy on a Monday and do my full exercise, yet not lose 20 pounds by Tuesday morning. WTF! But even better yet, your weight can fluctuate to make it seem as if you have actually gained weight by the time you weigh yourself Tuesday morning which is really deceitful and messes with your head.
No matter how many times we tell ourselves we are more than a number on a scale, it is difficult for us to automatically think of all the other great traits we have when we are unhappy with our weight. It is unhelpful that society, overall, places unhealthy and unrealistic standards in our mind about body type – for both males and females – but it is something that we can still overcome in our minds.
Whenever I really try to attack fitness and healthy eating, I start by making a list of all the other reasons why I want to lose weight besides the fact that I just want to lose weight. For example, I know that I feel better physically and mentally when I exercise more regularly. I can sleep better at night and I don’t have such a hard time getting out of bed in the morning.
Additionally, I find it helpful to list all the other things about myself that I know are more important than how much I weigh.
Maybe this is your first time that you’ve ever tried to lose weight or become healthier. Maybe this is the 100th time you’ve tried. Guess what? You’re trying. I personally suck at running no matter how hard I try to be good at it – but guess what? I’m running faster than I was when I was sitting on the couch using every excuse possible to not go to the gym. Committing to a new way of life is difficult but you’re giving it your best shot and progress will come.
You’re a good person.
I like to think that even the worst people on the planet still have some good in them. I work with the forensic population so trust me when I say I’ve encountered some really bad people, but they still have good in them in one way or another. So, I think I can say pretty generally speaking, that you have done at least one good thing in your life. You probably care about people, okay? This makes you a good person. People don’t care about your weight, they care that you care about them.
Your mind & your skills.
Each and every one of you has something to offer. If you’re not book smart, you’re creative. If you’re not creative, you’re organized. If you’re not organized, you’re a great cook. If you’re not a great cook, you’re a great parent. You get the point. Maybe you’re lucky and you’re all of these things. There is something truly brilliant about each and every one of us in our own way. Something that makes us a little extra interesting, something that makes people intrigued, something that makes people want to spend a day in your shoes. Which leads me to…
There are people who would give anything to have your bad days.
I am someone who is actually really against the saying “someone has it worse than you” because it doesn’t make your problem go away or make you feel any better about what you’re dealing with. However, sometimes it really puts things in perspective for you when you are feeling down about yourself. Yeah, you worked out and ate healthy for a whole week and only lost ½ a pound. Well, the positive thing is at least you lost ½ a pound. But furthermore, there are some people who would CELEBRATE losing ½ a pound. Pat yourself on the back for this little victory and stick with it! Progress isn’t fast for everyone. But like I said before YOU ARE TRYING.
You’re reading this.
I know this one seems funny but this means more to me than you’ll know. Like I said before, you must be a good person – you’re taking the time out of your day to read my post. Maybe you were looking for ways to feel more self-love or maybe you are one of my followers – maybe both – either way, you are doing something that means a lot to me. I don’t know what you look like, how much you weigh, what your career is, or where you are from, but I know that you are impacting me and I appreciate you!
This list can go on and on and can be tailored to your own personal accomplishments or goals, of course. Give yourself a round of applause. If your New Years Resolution was to get yourself in better shape, eat healthier, go to the gym more frequently, run a marathon, anything – you’ve gotten through NINE days of a lifestyle change. They say it takes 21 days to create a habit, you only have 12 more to go – that’s less than two weeks. You can do it!
As I continue to uphold yet another year of making a New Years Resolution to be healthier as well, I am always looking for strategies on ways to hold my focus on this goal. If anyone has any additional strategies they use, I’d love to hear them!
With love from my city to yours,